I’ve seen other bloggers and speakers talk about how to take the bullies power away by ignoring them or trying to turn their insults around on them etc. but usually a Bully will just take this as a challenge and find a different way to destroy you.
My strategy of Bully Whispering is more calculated than that. It involves an elaborate and borderline sociopathic plan of manipulation and betrayal. But the end result is usually a softening of the bully. In some cases I have almost fully cured a Bully and integrated them, so I’m not actually that evil.
Step 1. Freeze out the bully completely.
Pretend he/ she is just a figment of your imagination. It can help to pretend to take notes or smile, perhaps chuckle or nod in a calculating manner. But do not respond at all to acknowledge them. The Bully will be absolutely freaking out inside wondering what is going on in your head and what you are planning.
Step 2. Work on grooming the Bullies gang members.
Use the old War principle “Divide and Conquer”. Get each gang member or yes man on their own and get to know them. Show them how likeable you are. Laugh at their jokes. Praise them. Suggest they possess leadership qualities. Make them feel important, because the bully sees them as low servants. You need to boost up their confidence as they have been bullied into submission.
Step 3. Instigate a mutiny. Now you have lifted the confidence of the gang member it’s time to start a mutiny. A false rumour from the Bully targeted at the most confident groomed member should do it. This will instigate a fight for power to gain leadership of the gang or workplace.
Step 5. Hoping this fight results in the overthrow of the Bully, you now need to be quick to offer support and counselling to the Bully who suddenly has no gang and no friends. You, now, are the former Bully’s only chance at making mends with anyone at all in the school or workplace and this is exactly what you do. You now have control over persuading anyone you choose to accept and forgive the Bully.
You have now have the ultimate power and protection. The Bully will be forever grateful to you (not ever knowing you caused the whole thing). You made the bully your bitch! everyone loves you and your evil plan flew completely under everyone’s radar.